Fight Or Flight: Women in Crisis

Hi! This Eveningdove. Better known as Buterfies or Ladybird/Tweeie_Birdmama / Zenola or Zola / Babydoll. I am 1/3 part Chereekee, my Indianname is Zenok, which meens Ladybird. My Grandfather gave me my name when I was a little girl. My Grandmother gave me the name EveningDove. Lots of people has ask which name I like most of all, and the answer is: If I choose one name, it would be EveningDove! I bear all these names with great pride! This was a little something about me to you! We got to help each others!
Out there, every 2 min somebodys mother, sister, aunt, daughter, son or grandmother, is getting hurt and beeting out by her husband, or by a man! This happends everywhere in the whole world, every moment of our time and there is aösp somebody vraped at teh same time!
This is Domestic abuse and woman abuse and it's not at all a laughing matter as it can destroy the whole world of the women, some can't even recover from it in a lifetime and some are found dead! There are so many women out there who are trapped in her own house or in her own life and usually that is women who has no studies and are afraid to do an independent patch for herself and get ridd of a marriage like that or an abusive man in her life!
Zenolas World*Told with Love to give courage to others while she is there atself !!

It's needed a lots of courage that a women can get out from a householl with abuse, she can't do anything, that is what she thinks or she is afraid that the man will come after and kill her!
When it envolve childrens it's worse, sometimes the abuse happends in front of their eyes and then they get a lifetime trauma out of their parents behavier! We should always be able to protect the children and if we as moms can't do that then we get more week as we feel that we are guilty of that and that we are destroying the childrens future and showing him a life what is not a life but a hell !
But !! It's not our faught, not at all, it might be sometimes, but it doesn't give the right to the men to do what they ever wants! We have to gather the courage and the strenght to leave when you have the best opportunity and for that we have womenshelters but many times those shelters which are the nearest are full booked up so in a time of urgent need they will tell you - NO !!! at the door and THE SHELTER IS FULL! YOU CAN'T COME HERE !! COME TOMORROW !! but the tomorrow maybe don't arrive for that woman !
Then you have a situation in front of you that you are not able to resolve, specially in that case that you've run away from home and from the violence! Think of that ! Think, yes, what should a women do? She can't go back home and she can't get to the shelter, she has no money as her husband only gives her the money to by food and nothing more ! She is not working and depend whole the time of her abusive husband or man!
What can she do? She might handle the situation if she is alone but if she has run away with a couple of small children ? Does she have to sleep at the street ??With the small children?? This is something that happends day by day and every moment at your lifetime, cause there has always been violent men and they will aleays be there , for ever ! There is another kind of abuse what doesn't envolve fysical abuse but psycical abuse and many times that can be worse ! Why ? Because that can drive very easily a woman to suisidious thoughts, and the woman start to belive that she is trash and not worth anything, that she is ugly and much much more! It can get so low the womens selfestime and the selftrust that she can start to hate herself and then there is danger in the air ! She can start to punnish herself for to be so bad ! She can even push away her childrens as she think that she is not worth their love!
Here was some thoughts from my mind ! I got away, run away and came back to Finland from Portugal when I heard from my sons fathers cousin that his father had ordered a gun! Everyone is not that lucky that they can run away before the worse happend and I Thank God and I feel that I am Blessed as He leave me alive ! With worse luck I had never been here and never been able to know that there is so many wonderful people out here!
Love & Courage*Dreamer